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When it comes to sex, it sometimes
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We deserve better than that, dammit! Trans ladies are just as worthy of genuine, hot, enjoyable sex as anyone else. Unfortunately, the resources to help us and our partners figure how best to have all that hot sex are not plentiful. Luckily, she goes on to write a whole lot more about the social, psychological, and sexy aspects of getting down with transgender women. Your complex feelings are legitimate and important for you to process.
But not with your partner. It is unfair and unreasonable of you to ask your partner to play therapist.
Okay, so what about the sexytimes parts? Well, the sexytimes parts are, in fact, quite sexy. Kling does an excellent job at being descriptive without being overly clinical, and sexy without it becoming erotica. She discusses a wide variety of different ways that trans people can have sex, from oral, anal, penetrative, toys, or all by ourselves. She discusses three different techniques that are relatively specific to trans women: Admittedly, the latter two of those were totally new concepts, even to me!
While they may not be for everyone, they do give some pretty interesting new options for exploring a AMAB body. She also gives a lovely overview of some of the Chicago transvestite sex that trans women can be different when it comes to sex, whether be because of hormones or dysphoria. Best of all, she constantly reinforces that trans women are just as worthy of hot, healthy, fulfilling sex on their own terms as anyone else:.
My body means what I say it means. The same is true for you. After all, knowledge is power — hot, sexy power! Mari is a queer lady scientist and educator from Detroit, who skillfully avoids working on her genetics dissertation by writing about queer and trans life, nerd culture, feminism, and science.
You can frequently find her running around at science-fiction conventions giving panels on consent culture and LGBT topics or DJing at fantastically strange parties. She is a contributing writer for TransAdvocatemaintains a personal blog at TransNerdFeministand can frequently be found stirring up trouble and posting selfies on Twitter.
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We need to resist this impulse. We need to make certain all kinds and bodies and ages and races of trans women get representation. Anything less than that is buying into a view of womenhood I want no part of. This is so awesome! Not so, it would seem!
So well written and informative, too! Thanks for your kind words! This is a fantastic resource for what it is. These are her pre-operative experiences, which she plans to update with thoughts post-surgery. While treatment and body image issues are important topics, no one guide can be everything to everyone. I look forward to reading this book.
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It is a huge gift to have a trans-positive space for queer women. For a queer gal like me — late-in-life and early-in-transition, this is an amazing and wonderful place. Thanks for the info! At one point I was looking for resources, but
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Mari Brighe Mari is a queer lady scientist and educator from Detroit, who skillfully avoids working on her genetics dissertation by writing about queer and trans life, nerd culture, feminism, and science.
Mari has written 36 articles for us. You May Also Like Rebecca Kling is such an awesome human being. Her blog is delightful reading. Log in to Reply.
Chicago transvestite sex to the conversation Cancel reply You must be logged in to post a comment. Chicago's feminist sex shop has published a well-written guide to getting down for trans women and their partners, written by Rebecca Kling.
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